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Procrastinating on the hard truth Many people stay in stagnant relationships by embracing a "Mañana" mindset, postponing the discomfort of a difficult decision under the guise of virtue. This delay isn't noble; it’s an avoidance of the existential weight that comes with choosing a life partner. To break this cycle, Jordan Peterson suggests asking if you would want your future child to date someone exactly like your current partner. If the answer is no, you aren't being patient—you are hiding a fundamental incompatibility under the rug. Solving for the shared game A healthy partnership isn't a compromise; it’s a solution. When you and your partner are different, the goal is to find a "game" where both sets of skills are utilized optimally. This requires moving beyond the baggage of past patterns to create a better experience than either could achieve alone. However, reaching this state requires the courage to confront annoyances before they metastasize into resentment. The three-strike rule for conflict Conflict is often the only path to peace. To navigate this, use the three-strike rule: if something bugs you once, note it. If it happens twice, wait. By the third occurrence, you have a pattern that demands a conversation. This approach prevents you from being a "tyrannical" partner while ensuring you don't let bad habits settle into the relationship’s foundation. You aren't just fighting; you are pruning the connection. The Michelangelo effect in love True love involves seeing the "hidden soul" or the idealized version of your partner—much like Michelangelo seeing the David within a block of marble. Loving someone means encouraging that light to emerge while discouraging the behaviors that block it. This process involves judgment, which is actually the highest form of compassion. By setting boundaries and refusing to accept unworthiness, you help your partner become the best version of themselves.