Relationship failure isn't usually born from a single explosion, but from a quiet, steady leak of disconnection that most couples don't notice until it's too late. Divorce lawyer James Sexton reveals that the secret to a resilient marriage lies in treating it like a machine that requires constant, low-stakes maintenance rather than grand, desperate gestures. He challenges us to stop relying on the symbols of commitment and start asking the three uncomfortable questions that actually bridge the gap between roommates and soulmates.