The Biological Bond: Why Some Argue for a Universal Surrogacy Ban
The Biological Alchemy of Motherhood
Pregnancy operates as far more than a physical container for a developing fetus. It functions as a profound neurological and physiological transformation.
argues that gestation is an irreversible process of becoming. During these nine months, a woman's body undergoes hormonal bathing that literally rewires the brain, preparing her for the intense Attunement required to sustain an infant's life. This isn't manufacturing; it is a biological orientation toward a specific, dependent human being.
“Surrogacy Should Be Banned” - Mary Harrington
The Priming Process and Developmental Risk
While many celebrate the technological advances of
, critics point to the essential foundations of an integrated personhood laid at birth. A child is born primed for the mother they already know—the voice, the rhythm, and the biochemical scent. Intentionally severing this bond at the moment of birth to satisfy adult desires creates what Harrington describes as a "weaker start." When neither parent undergoes the biological priming of pregnancy, the immediate, instinctual response-loop can be delayed, potentially leaving the infant in a state of relational deficit during its most vulnerable window.
Paternal Bonding and the Guilt of Absence
Bonding is not always instantaneous, even in traditional settings.
notes that many fathers experience a delayed paternal instinct, often not feeling a deep connection until months after the birth. This delay often triggers intense shame and a sense of being "defective." However, when this natural delay in fathers is coupled with a surrogate arrangement—where the mother has also not been biologically primed—the child may enter a home where both primary caregivers are struggling to find an emotional anchor, often outsourcing care to nannies and further distancing the infant from primary attachment.
Ethical Implications of Reproductive Markets
Viewing children as products to be "procured" shifts the moral compass from the duty of care toward the fulfillment of consumer demand. Harrington characterizes the industry as a form of human trafficking, even when using the parents' own genetics. The central concern remains: are we centering the child's need for biological continuity, or are we prioritizing the emotional journeys of adults? Shifting the focus back to the infant requires acknowledging that some bonds are too sacred to be broken by contract.
